Day 11: “Love Your Enemies”

Scripture Reading (Jerusalem Bible):

Matthew 5:43-48
“You have learnt how it was said: You must love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say this to you: love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you; in this way, you will be sons of your Father in heaven, for he causes his sun to rise on the bad as well as the good, and his rain to fall on the honest and the dishonest alike. For if you love those who love you, what right have you to claim any credit? Even the tax collectors do as much, do they not? And if you save your greetings for your brothers, are you doing anything exceptional? Even the pagans do as much, do they not? You must therefore be perfect just as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

Host Reflection:

Jesus’ teaching today is among the most challenging in the Gospel: “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” It overturns our natural instincts and calls us to a higher standard of love—one that reflects the heart of the Father.

This love is what the New Testament calls agape love: a love that is selfless, sacrificial, and unconditional. It is not based on feelings but is an act of the will, a deliberate choice to seek the good of another. This kind of love requires humility and often feels impossible—especially when directed toward those who are difficult to love or who have wronged us. Yet, it is precisely in these moments that agape love becomes an extraordinary act of grace.

We cannot achieve this love on our own. Agape love demands cooperation with God’s grace. It is through prayer and reliance on the Holy Spirit that we are strengthened to love as God loves, even when our natural instincts resist.

The Desert Fathers embraced this radical love as a path to holiness. Abba Agathon said:
“If I could meet a leper and give him my body in exchange for his, I would gladly do so. That is perfect love.”(Apophthegmata Patrum, Alphabetical Collection, Agathon 23)

This teaching shows that love is not limited by how we feel but is expanded by our willingness to act for the good of others, even at great personal cost. Loving our enemies begins with prayer. When we pray for those who hurt us, we open our hearts to God’s transforming grace. Over time, our wounds can become places of compassion, and our hearts can be made free to reflect God’s own mercy.

In her mystical conversation with God, recorded in The Dialogue of Divine Providence, St. Catherine of Siena, a Doctor of the Church, receives these profound words from the Father, reminding us of the inseparable bond between love of God and love of neighbor.

“The soul who loves Me (God) loves every virtue and hates sin. Such love of virtue is always evident in love of neighbor, because love of Me and love of neighbor are one and the same thing, and whatever is done for another is done for Me.”
(The Dialogue, Chapter 7, trans. Suzanne Noffke, O.P.)

Her words call us to see Christ in every person, even those who oppose us. Agape love invites us to participate in the reconciling love of God, who desires to bring all people to Himself. This love, though difficult, is the path to holiness and true peace.

As we reflect today, let us ask: How can we take the first steps toward loving those who are difficult to love? How can we trust in God’s grace to enable us to live out this agape love?

Reflection Questions:

Take a moment to reflect on these questions and allow them to guide your prayer today:

1. Who are the “enemies” or difficult people in our lives, and how can we respond to them with love?
2. How can prayer for those who hurt us open our hearts to God’s grace?
3. In what ways is God calling us to reflect His perfect, unconditional love in our relationships?

Closing Prayer:

Let us now bring our time of reflection to God in prayer, asking for the grace to love as He loves.

Lord, You call us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us. This love is beyond our natural strength, but we trust in Your grace to make it possible. Open our hearts to see Your image in every person, even those who are difficult to love. Teach us to pray for those who hurt us, and transform our wounds into compassion. May our love reflect Your perfect and unconditional love, bringing healing and peace to the world. Amen.

Day 10: “Reconciliation and Forgiveness”

Scripture Reading (Jerusalem Bible):

Matthew 5:23-24
“If you are bringing your offering to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar, go and be reconciled with your brother first, and then come back and present your offering.”

Reflection:

Forgiveness is the doorway to healing, the first step toward true reconciliation. We accept that a past action has happened that has hurt us, and we begin to let it go, not by our own strength, but through the grace of God, who leads us toward healing and freedom. Jesus reminds us that before we approach God, we must examine our hearts and choose to forgive. Forgiveness is an act of the will—a decision to release resentment and entrust justice to God. It is not always easy, but it frees us from the weight of bitterness and prepares us to receive God’s mercy.

Sometimes, the wounds in a relationship run deep, and forgiveness is not a single moment but a continuing process. We may not always feel emotionally ready to forgive, but turning to the Father and asking for His grace to forgive is the first step. When we do not feel sincere, authentic forgiveness is fully possible at a given moment, we can begin with a simple prayer.

“Father, pour Your mercy upon the one I need to forgive. The pain is still present, and forgiveness feels difficult. Grant me the grace to heal through Your mercy and have the strength and freedom to fully forgive.”

You may need to say it multiple times over days, months, or even years, but each time you do, you take a step closer to the full freedom of forgiveness. The desire to forgive, even if imperfect, is what allows God’s grace to gradually transform your heart.

Abba Moses the Black said:

“The man who is angry with his brother is like a man who drinks poison and hopes it will kill his enemy”(Apophthegmata Patrum, Alphabetical Collection, Moses 7)

Holding onto anger harms us far more than it does the other person. Forgiveness frees us, even when reconciliation is not possible. Sometimes, the other person may not be open to restoration, and wounds may remain. But even if human reconciliation is unattainable, God is always open to us. His mercy is never withheld, and He invites us to bring our brokenness to Him for healing.

Reconciliation is more than resolving conflicts; it is about restoring relationships. The word reconciliation comes from the Latin reconciliare, meaning to bring together again, to restore harmony. True reconciliation happens when we see others as God sees them—not as adversaries, but as fellow children of God, wounded as we are, in need of grace and healing. It is not merely about resolving disputes but about restoring communion.

Abba Dorotheus provides wisdom:

“Do not imagine that you will be able to correct others before you have corrected yourself. Reconcile first your own heart to peace, and then you will be able to bring peace to others.” (Discourses and Sayings, Dorotheus of Gaza)

Before we can reconcile with others, we must reconcile with God. Sin damages our relationship with Him, distorting our vision and leading us away from His love. Often, we fail to recognize the weight of our sins or their consequences. True reconciliation begins when we see ourselves in the light of His love and seek His mercy.

One of the greatest gifts of the Church is the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Christ instituted this sacrament to restore us to grace, lift the burden of sin, and renew our hearts.

Confession is not about judgment but healing. God longs to pour out His mercy, removing the barriers that sin creates between us and Him. When we avoid this sacrament, we deny ourselves the grace that Christ freely offers.

St. Augustine offers this insight:

“I probed the hidden depths of my soul and wrung its pitiful secrets from it, and when I mustered them all before the eyes of my heart, a great storm broke within me, bringing with it a great deluge of tears… For I felt that I was still captive of my sins, and in my misery, I kept crying, ‘How long shall I go on saying, “Tomorrow, tomorrow”? Why not now? Why not make an end of my ugly sins at this moment? (Confessions, 8.12)

Reconciliation with God leads to freedom. It gives us the grace to seek healing in our relationships.

Abba Poemen reminds us:

“If someone wrongs you, you should say to yourself, ‘If it were not for this sin, perhaps I would not be saved.’”(Apophthegmata Patrum, Poemen 65)

Even the wounds inflicted by others can lead us to a deeper dependence on God’s mercy. If we allow them, these struggles can purify our hearts and teach us humility.

Lent is a time to examine our hearts, to forgive, and to be forgiven. Forgiveness sets us free; reconciliation restores what was broken. As we reflect today, let us ask: How can we take steps toward reconciliation in our lives? How can we trust God’s grace to heal the wounds that division has caused? And where in our hearts do we need to surrender resentment and ask for the grace to forgive?

Reflection Questions:

1. Is there someone we need to forgive or seek forgiveness from?
2. How can we let go of anger, resentment, or division and find peace in God’s mercy?
3. How can we practice humility in seeking reconciliation with others?
4. In what ways have our sins damaged our relationship with God, and how can we seek to restore that relationship?
5. How can we renew our hearts through the Sacrament of Reconciliation?

Closing Prayer:

Lord, You are rich in mercy and call us to reflect Your love in our relationships. Help us to forgive as You forgive, and to walk in the freedom of Your grace. Open our hearts to recognize the ways in which we have wounded our relationship with You and grant us the humility to seek Your mercy. May we never fear the Sacrament of Reconciliation but embrace it as a gift of Your love. Transform our hearts, Lord, that we may live in the fullness of Your grace.

Amen.