SD9 - Overcoming Pre-Event Desolation - Spiritual Desolation: Be Aware, Understand, Take Action with Fr. Timothy Gallagher

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Overcoming Pre-Event Desolation – Spiritual Desolation: Be Aware, Understand, Take Action with Fr. Timothy Gallagher

Fr. Timothy Gallagher introduces the concept of “pre-event desolation”—a form of spiritual discouragement that often arises right before someone undertakes a spiritually fruitful activity, such as a retreat, ministry project, or renewed commitment to prayer. He describes how this heaviness, doubt, or reluctance can disguise itself as logical reasoning (“I’m too tired,” “It won’t make a difference,” etc.) but is in fact a subtle tactic of the enemy meant to deter growth. Fr. Gallagher draws from his own experience of recognizing this pattern and explains that when this resistance appears, it often signals that something grace-filled lies ahead.

This spiritual dynamic can affect family life and parish participation. Some people may feel a gradual disinterest in Mass or prayer life. Such moments are normal trials, not moral failings. Fr. Gallagher advises responding to loved ones experiencing this kind of desolation—whether a spouse or child—not with anger or pressure, but with patience, compassion, and steadfast prayer. Drawing from the example of St. Monica and St. Augustine, he offers three guiding principles for parents: pray persistently, live an authentic life of faith, and show unconditional love. These, he explains, are the ways through which God continues to work in the hearts of those who have drifted, even when outward signs of faith have waned.

Discerning Hearts Reflection Questions:

When have I experienced “pre-event desolation,” feeling sudden reluctance or discouragement before something spiritually good?
How might I better recognize the difference between genuine obstacles and the enemy’s attempts to hold me back from grace?
In moments of spiritual heaviness, what practical steps can I take to remain faithful to prayer or my commitments?
How do I typically respond when a loved one loses interest in attending Mass or practicing their faith?
What can I learn from St. Monica’s patient love and perseverance in praying for her son, St. Augustine?
Do I see moments of desolation as personal failure, or as opportunities to trust more deeply in God’s presence?
How can I cultivate compassion rather than frustration toward those who seem spiritually distant?
In what ways might the enemy try to discourage me from engaging in apostolic or ministry work?
How does remembering that desolation is a normal part of the spiritual journey bring me peace and perspective?
What practices help me stay aware, understand what’s happening spiritually, and take faithful action in response?

From Setting the Captives Free: Personal Reflections on Ignatian Discernment of Spirits:

“Through the years, as I have studied and taught these rules, received the sharing of many, and experienced the rules personally,
I have noted various qualities of spiritual desolation. I will share and discuss them here:

A Sense of Irreparable Disaster

If it is strong enough, spiritual desolation may bring a sense of irreparable disaster. Its message is this: “Things are going badly for you. You are in a bad way spiritually, and things will continue to go badly. It’s all over. The harm can’t be undone. Even if it could, you won’t take the necessary steps. You won’t change. Don’t think it’s ever going to be different.”This is simply one more lie of the enemy.

Spiritual Desolation Presents Itself as Our Spiritual Identity

This quality of spiritual desolation touches the heart of its burden. If we believe the lie that equates our experience of spiritual desolation with our spiritual identity, the desolation will grow very heavy.

There Is No Shame in Experiencing Spiritual Desolation

This point—that there is no shame in experiencing spiritual desolation—cannot be repeated too often. When I present the rules, I repeat it many times. No one has yet told me that I say it too often!”

Father Timothy M. Gallagher, O.M.V., was ordained in 1979 as a member of the Oblates of the Virgin Mary, a religious community dedicated to retreats and spiritual formation according to the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius. Fr. Gallagher is featured on the EWTN series “Living the Discerning Life: The Spiritual Teachings of St. Ignatius of Loyola”. For more information on how to obtain copies of Fr. Gallaghers’s various books and audio which are available for purchase, please visit his website: frtimothygallagher.org