SFTH-5 - Fighting the Good Fight - Stories from the Heart with Msgr. John Esseff

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Episode Five – Fighting the Good Fight – Stories from the Heart with Msgr. John Esseff

Msgr. John Esseff reflects on his formative years growing up in a Lebanese Maronite Catholic family. He shares vivid stories of his early friendships formed around the church and school, highlighting how closely tied family, faith, and community life were in his upbringing. He recounts his experiences serving as an altar boy alongside his brother, being mentored by his father, and how boxing became both a defense mechanism and a metaphor for dealing with conflict. His early encounters with schoolyard hostility and physical altercations shaped his understanding of strength and protection, which he later came to see in a new light as he matured in his priestly identity.

Later in life, Msgr. Esseff realized that the combative instincts he was taught—though meant to protect—also delayed deeper human connections. He candidly discusses how those early lessons in self-defense influenced his relationships, even into seminary. A profound spiritual awakening led him to understand that the priesthood isn’t just a role but a call to be Christ to others. He expresses regret for the harm caused by a hardened attitude and explores how true formation comes not just through education but through learning to love as Christ does.

Reflection Questions

How has your upbringing influenced the way you respond to conflict and adversity today?
In what ways do you carry unresolved fear or anger from childhood into your adult relationships?
How do you understand the call to “be Christ” rather than just “do good” as a Christian?
Have you ever used your strengths or gifts in a way that may have hurt rather than healed others?
What does it mean to you to protect someone—not just physically, but spiritually and emotionally?
Are there relationships from your past that were delayed or damaged by pride or fear, and how might God be inviting you to revisit them?
How can you teach the children in your life not only how to defend themselves, but how to build bridges of friendship and understanding?
What experiences in your life have dulled or distorted your understanding of your baptismal identity?
How do you see St. Joseph as a model for guiding others with both strength and tenderness?
In what areas of your spiritual life do you still find yourself tempted to “fight back” instead of respond with love?

About the Series

In this deeply personal and spiritually rich podcast series, Msgr. John Esseff—renowned retreat master, confessor, and spiritual director—shares intimate stories of his remarkable life. Having encountered some of the most beloved and influential figures of the modern Church, including St. Teresa of Calcutta, St. Padre Pio, Pope St. John Paul II, and many others, Msgr. Esseff offers listeners a living memory of the Church’s heart in the 20th and 21st centuries. This series also explores his missionary work with the poor, his years of service through the Pontifical Missions, and the profound lessons drawn from hidden saints and everyday holiness.